How to recognize boundary violations and address them on the spot.

How to effectively communicate our boundaries to others.

Six areas of our life where we can set boundaries.

Some of the reasons why we may lack boundaries.Throughout the book, Tawwab goes on to teach us: When it comes to fielding requests from others, I have what Tawwab calls Porous boundaries, boundaries that are weakly established or poorly expressed and leave me feeling depleted and overextended.īut identifying that we lack boundaries is only the first step. Not only does this leave me feeling physically and emotionally drained, and practically behind on the things I really needed to be doing for myself instead, but it makes it difficult for me to show up as my best self in my relationships. I also have a tendency to cave into guilt trips to avoid conflict and awkwardness between myself and others. Even when I know I shouldn’t, I will allow myself to get talked into things because I like feeling helpful. I found myself highlighting page after page as I gained more realization of the areas in my own life that were lacking boundaries, and where I could begin to start making changes, inshaAllah.įor example, I realized that I tend to say “yes” to things I don’t really have the time, energy, or resources to do. I mean really, how many women don’t resonate with at least one of those? Signs that Tawwab says indicate that you may need better boundaries in your life include: “They are an indication of how you allow people to show up for you and how you show up for others… A boundary is a cue to others about how to treat you.” “Boundaries are expectations and needs that help you feel safe and comfortable in your relationships,” explains Tawwab. At the end of every chapter are reflective exercises created to help you analyze the areas of your life where you might need better boundaries. The book offers a detailed blueprint for what boundaries are and how to implement them in your life so you can have healthier relationships with others and yourself. “Boundaries are the gateway to healthy relationships,” says Tawwab in her recent book, and New York Times Bestseller, Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself. What ties all of these areas together for better mental health? Boundaries. It turns out it also resonates with 1.5 million other people who follow her (even Oprah Winfrey!).Īs a relationship therapist for over 14 years, her content touches on many areas of an individual’s life and connections with others, including marriage, parenting, work-life balance, family bonds, and friendships. Her content, simply crafted, clearly explained, and deeply impactful, hit a chord with me.

I started following Nedra Glover Tawwab, MSW, LCSW, on Instagram nearly a year ago.

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